I have heard about people buying dresses before they have a fiancé due to dresses being in and out of style by each season. Do you recommend this? And also buy a few sizes a up because it’s easier to take in
Hayley Segar is the ABSOLUTE Best for wedding tips! I actually created my own channel called "Asked Delsie" with even more wedding planning highlights and tips! Come check it out and I will always follow back!
Only ,y mum and my sisters xo,e with me and my sismsbrough my nephews as he was dew month at the time but then fittting only ,y mum mad dmoree so wick for the day than saw mad special for,bestie and sister in law be bridesmaid didn't see steak day mad me and so,the ss,w for my bestie wedimg I'm June I choose not to see tell the day be bridemaid for her . But make more Speo l for the day of dmt see it beofre
No I picked ,y dress only 4 month as pl,a. My wedding in 6 to 5 month was only enganged 7 month I only payed bit for to come, time not for deoposit amd stilll and to mad to fit and also just and check be in time that and was
The buying on the day element is stressing me out. I had my first appointment last week and didn’t love any of the dresses, the consultant found me a dress similar to what I wanted, but unfortunately I just wasn’t 100% but she pressured me for what felt like ages to buy that dress – a dress I had said I didn’t like. She then tried to make me put a deposit down for the store to use on another dress to guarantee I would return, I didn’t as at that point I realised I didn’t want to buy from them. It’s made me scared of trying again! I found another store which looks to stock dresses more similar to what I’ve now discovered I like, but I’m scared if I don’t find the dress, the pressure will be so immense to buy 🙁
Maybe to help you understand the "please do not pressure me part". When I shop I am there to buy (and in 99 percent I will), however as soon as the shop assistant pushes me I either buy what I do not want or quickly leave – to prevent to buy what I do not want. This is because a lot of people tend to be people pleasers and this extends to please shop assistants too. Hope this helps 🙂
What if i order my dress a year in advance but by then i end up gaining weight? I was planning to go to another country to order😪 probably wont be able to travel back n forth
While I completely agree with everything you said, it is a sales game and it is a business, I also was a consultant for years and just went shopping for my wedding dress. I was so haggled by the consultant that helped me over four times to buy the dress that day when I stated multiple times I wanted to sleep on it just to be sure. I’m so glad I did because the next store I went to I found my dream dress. If someone is telling you no, dont keep harassing them to drop the dress on a credit card, etc. I understand you absolutely don’t want to waste a consultants time, time is money, but it’s also sales. Not every customer you have is going to buy from you, and it’s also a HUGE purchase for a girl to make, a dress that costs thousands. Most women don’t just drop a few grand on their first appointment
I worked in a bridal store for six years (not to the degree of this woman) and I would always tell my brides: 1) be open minded about style. You get a certain look in your head that you either can't find/doesn't exist or it just doesn't look fabulous on you. 2) while you are in the dress, have your mom or maid of honor take pictures of you from every angle, then look at how it fits you from every angle-you'll thank me when you get your pictures back from the photographer! And to all you M.O.B's and Grandma's of the bride, just remember that it's the bride's day and not yours. The day is about making HER dreams come true. If your dream's turned into a nightmare, it's not your daughter's fault so keep your opinions to yourself. If she wants to wear a blush colored dress (or some color other than white) you can gently ask her, "How are people gonna know you're the bride if you're not in white?" let her think on it but if she still wants a color gown, then drop it. The traditions surrounding weddings are old fashioned and superstitious anyway. Let her be the modern bride she wants to be. And years from now when she looks at her wedding pictures and wonders why nobody warned her off that dress, you can smugly answer "told you so but you wouldn't listen"
What would you recommend to do when you know you’re not going to buy that day? I’m assuming it’s a commission kind of work but I just have no clue what I want/like therefore influencing how much we should budget. My wedding is two years away so I’m in NO rush that’s for sure. Should I tip the consultant for taking her time without buying? Tia!
I suggest that the bride wear a full slip under her street dress while shopping for a wedding gown. I would also wear very little if any face makeup or lipstick, because you don’t want to stain a dress. Further, if you have large breasts but can’t afford a customized dress, consider buying a larger size dress with princess seams which a good seamstress can take in at the waist. I tighten the waist on most of my ready-to-wear clothes.
I am a street size 10… not plus size but also a bit larger than what most sample size dresses are. What is your advice for brides like me to stay confident and not get frustrated by the dress shopping process?
I got married last year and brought just my sister (maid of honor) with me shopping. All the boutiques I went to recommended just bringing 1-3 people with you. The biggest complaint I have about the whole wedding dress shopping experience, would be all the other brides who brought like 6-8 of their friends/wedding party/sorority sisters and completely filled up the salon with their noise and their party. My sister had barely anywhere to sit because some other bride ignored the 1-3 people recommendation and brought like 8 people with her. It really is selfish to bring a million people with you.
My advice is same as any dress; show cleavage OR legs; never both. (Pick your best feature).. Mine has a low V-cut back which I also love because I like my back 😊 My priority is always comfort and fit, then of course elegance, simplicity, expressing individuality while using restraint. The dress really is important and TBH I couldn't really get excited about the day til I knew what I was wearing. We are keeping it super simple. Look online for inspiration. Trying on wedding dresses in a boutique with no intention of buying is IMHO quite rude. As a seamstress I can assure you time, effort and precision goes into wedding gowns is painstaking and expensive, slippery delicate fabric.
When my cousin was getting married, she brought her best friend and I with her since we were in her bridal party and she wanted to get all three of our dresses figured out in the same day. The other bridesmaid and I weren’t huuuuhe fans of the dress she wanted us to wear, and I feel bad that she started to notice our hesitation over it. When we told her “do you like it?? Cool, we’re wearing it. End of story.” She was so relieved and happy, and our consultant was genuinely surprised that we were putting the bride’s feelings over ours. It’s sad how common it is for bridesmaids to be so shitty towards their bride.
Thank you for making this video!! I’m glad I watched this before I start making my bridal appointment. Helps me to get into a more realistic mindset and it’s so true that people judge their experience from say yes to the dress lol
While I like most of your recommendations, the one about "why aren't you buying anything?" Is the one I lightly disagree with. I never buy a thing on the spot, I try it on, take pictures and ALWAYS give myself a few days of thinking about it. If I still love it after 3 days, I'll come back and buy it. It might be a little different with buying a bride's dress though. I loved the video nonetheless.
OK, I am the Mother of the Bride. I promised I would not say a thing, not even a facial expression. She turned and asked me which one. I said nope. So she ended up buying the first one we saw (whichI hated) but said nothing. Now 6 months later she is trying to sell that dress online, and buying the one that I loved but didn't say anything about. Don't give Mom's a bad rap.
Unless it's something really sentimental, I usually find it hilarious when I see a bride crying in her dress like it's as if you were to go eyeglass shopping and cry when you found the pair you like lol it's just so baffling to me how fabric makes people so emotional. I understand being wowed by beautiful art but crying even on the actual wedding day again unless it's sentimental like crying about a loved one not being there or something is just silly to me.
watching this in 2019! this was a great video – i started off wanting to buy my wedding dress in a non-traditional way (pre-owned or from a department store) but after 3 months of searching and trying on 100+ dresses, i FINALLY found my dress at a cute bridal boutique!
also – your voice totally sounds like anna kendrick!
I picked my dress from a bridal magazine. I found a local stockist, tried it on and purchased it. I never tried on any other dress and I was extremely happy with it.
I just bought my wedding dress. I put the last one on and I loved it. I wasnt hoping to love that one. It was the most expensive one!!! But i needed that dress. Its the only one I could wear. I got so lucky to have a size 0. All i needed was a hem!!! I am so happy that I didn't choose a dress because of the price. (All of the dresses were wothin my budget.)
The sizing is a real thing. I'm an hour glass shape, pushing pear and I'm like three different sizes. I had some size ten dresses fit like a glove and some size 16 still not go over my hips and swallow me everywhere else. I left with a dress and was so excited(still am), but the sizing thing put me in a weird mood
I have heard about people buying dresses before they have a fiancé due to dresses being in and out of style by each season. Do you recommend this? And also buy a few sizes a up because it’s easier to take in
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Hayley Segar is the ABSOLUTE Best for wedding tips! I actually created my own channel called "Asked Delsie" with even more wedding planning highlights and tips! Come check it out and I will always follow back!
Only ,y mum and my sisters xo,e with me and my sismsbrough my nephews as he was dew month at the time but then fittting only ,y mum mad dmoree so wick for the day than saw mad special for,bestie and sister in law be bridesmaid didn't see steak day mad me and so,the ss,w for my bestie wedimg I'm June I choose not to see tell the day be bridemaid for her . But make more Speo l for the day of dmt see it beofre
No I picked ,y dress only 4 month as pl,a. My wedding in 6 to 5 month was only enganged 7 month I only payed bit for to come, time not for deoposit amd stilll and to mad to fit and also just and check be in time that and was
The buying on the day element is stressing me out. I had my first appointment last week and didn’t love any of the dresses, the consultant found me a dress similar to what I wanted, but unfortunately I just wasn’t 100% but she pressured me for what felt like ages to buy that dress – a dress I had said I didn’t like. She then tried to make me put a deposit down for the store to use on another dress to guarantee I would return, I didn’t as at that point I realised I didn’t want to buy from them. It’s made me scared of trying again! I found another store which looks to stock dresses more similar to what I’ve now discovered I like, but I’m scared if I don’t find the dress, the pressure will be so immense to buy 🙁
It’s so sad that plus sizing isn’t the norm too. I’ll never understand that
A recommended video from two years ago? I’m not complaining, but ok algorithm!
Maybe to help you understand the "please do not pressure me part". When I shop I am there to buy (and in 99 percent I will), however as soon as the shop assistant pushes me I either buy what I do not want or quickly leave – to prevent to buy what I do not want.
This is because a lot of people tend to be people pleasers and this extends to please shop assistants too. Hope this helps 🙂
well i can't do it 1 year before, the marriage window i have is 3months……….because if u marry abroad u only get 6 months legally. (thanks brexit) ……
What dress do u have on on the tumbnail pic
Im a petite girl, usually the stores carry bigger sizes? Would it not be hard to imagine how the dress fits if its a big dress?
how would you advise me on a dress for my age. I am 53 and native canadian
What if i order my dress a year in advance but by then i end up gaining weight? I was planning to go to another country to order😪 probably wont be able to travel back n forth
While I completely agree with everything you said, it is a sales game and it is a business, I also was a consultant for years and just went shopping for my wedding dress. I was so haggled by the consultant that helped me over four times to buy the dress that day when I stated multiple times I wanted to sleep on it just to be sure. I’m so glad I did because the next store I went to I found my dream dress. If someone is telling you no, dont keep harassing them to drop the dress on a credit card, etc. I understand you absolutely don’t want to waste a consultants time, time is money, but it’s also sales. Not every customer you have is going to buy from you, and it’s also a HUGE purchase for a girl to make, a dress that costs thousands. Most women don’t just drop a few grand on their first appointment
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I worked in a bridal store for six years (not to the degree of this woman) and I would always tell my brides: 1) be open minded about style. You get a certain look in your head that you either can't find/doesn't exist or it just doesn't look fabulous on you. 2) while you are in the dress, have your mom or maid of honor take pictures of you from every angle, then look at how it fits you from every angle-you'll thank me when you get your pictures back from the photographer! And to all you M.O.B's and Grandma's of the bride, just remember that it's the bride's day and not yours. The day is about making HER dreams come true. If your dream's turned into a nightmare, it's not your daughter's fault so keep your opinions to yourself. If she wants to wear a blush colored dress (or some color other than white) you can gently ask her, "How are people gonna know you're the bride if you're not in white?" let her think on it but if she still wants a color gown, then drop it. The traditions surrounding weddings are old fashioned and superstitious anyway. Let her be the modern bride she wants to be. And years from now when she looks at her wedding pictures and wonders why nobody warned her off that dress, you can smugly answer "told you so but you wouldn't listen"
What would you recommend to do when you know you’re not going to buy that day? I’m assuming it’s a commission kind of work but I just have no clue what I want/like therefore influencing how much we should budget. My wedding is two years away so I’m in NO rush that’s for sure. Should I tip the consultant for taking her time without buying? Tia!
I love all your recommendations and opinions. The editing of the video.. not so much
Girl, two mins in…I'm subbing! LUV ur approach and I dont even have a partner ☻😅👏🥰
I suggest that the bride wear a full slip under her street dress while shopping for a wedding gown. I would also wear very little if any face makeup or lipstick, because you don’t want to stain a dress.
Further, if you have large breasts but can’t afford a customized dress, consider buying a larger size dress with princess seams which a good seamstress can take in at the waist. I tighten the waist on most of my ready-to-wear clothes.
I am a street size 10… not plus size but also a bit larger than what most sample size dresses are. What is your advice for brides like me to stay confident and not get frustrated by the dress shopping process?
They need to change the size chart from the 1950s
This is a great video. So real.
My fiancee just said he likes your advice. 👍🙂
Why can’t brides try on dresses by themselves?
Literally so helpful!!
I got married last year and brought just my sister (maid of honor) with me shopping. All the boutiques I went to recommended just bringing 1-3 people with you. The biggest complaint I have about the whole wedding dress shopping experience, would be all the other brides who brought like 6-8 of their friends/wedding party/sorority sisters and completely filled up the salon with their noise and their party. My sister had barely anywhere to sit because some other bride ignored the 1-3 people recommendation and brought like 8 people with her. It really is selfish to bring a million people with you.
My advice is same as any dress; show cleavage OR legs; never both. (Pick your best feature).. Mine has a low V-cut back which I also love because I like my back 😊 My priority is always comfort and fit, then of course elegance, simplicity, expressing individuality while using restraint. The dress really is important and TBH I couldn't really get excited about the day til I knew what I was wearing. We are keeping it super simple. Look online for inspiration. Trying on wedding dresses in a boutique with no intention of buying is IMHO quite rude. As a seamstress I can assure you time, effort and precision goes into wedding gowns is painstaking and expensive, slippery delicate fabric.
When my cousin was getting married, she brought her best friend and I with her since we were in her bridal party and she wanted to get all three of our dresses figured out in the same day. The other bridesmaid and I weren’t huuuuhe fans of the dress she wanted us to wear, and I feel bad that she started to notice our hesitation over it. When we told her “do you like it?? Cool, we’re wearing it. End of story.” She was so relieved and happy, and our consultant was genuinely surprised that we were putting the bride’s feelings over ours. It’s sad how common it is for bridesmaids to be so shitty towards their bride.
Thank you for making this video!! I’m glad I watched this before I start making my bridal appointment. Helps me to get into a more realistic mindset and it’s so true that people judge their experience from say yes to the dress lol
While I like most of your recommendations, the one about "why aren't you buying anything?" Is the one I lightly disagree with. I never buy a thing on the spot, I try it on, take pictures and ALWAYS give myself a few days of thinking about it. If I still love it after 3 days, I'll come back and buy it. It might be a little different with buying a bride's dress though. I loved the video nonetheless.
👏👏👏👏BRAVO!!! Preach!!!
Love the your full on honesty on money: “we WILL try to sell you dresses!!!”
OK, I am the Mother of the Bride. I promised I would not say a thing, not even a facial expression. She turned and asked me which one. I said nope. So she ended up buying the first one we saw (whichI hated) but said nothing. Now 6 months later she is trying to sell that dress online, and buying the one that I loved but didn't say anything about. Don't give Mom's a bad rap.
Unless it's something really sentimental, I usually find it hilarious when I see a bride crying in her dress like it's as if you were to go eyeglass shopping and cry when you found the pair you like lol it's just so baffling to me how fabric makes people so emotional. I understand being wowed by beautiful art but crying even on the actual wedding day again unless it's sentimental like crying about a loved one not being there or something is just silly to me.
I'm struggling to decide how much to spend on dress. I was raised by my dad and brother, so I have a hard time "wanting" a fancy dress.
Can you talk about bridal shops not getting your dress in on time?
watching this in 2019! this was a great video – i started off wanting to buy my wedding dress in a non-traditional way (pre-owned or from a department store) but after 3 months of searching and trying on 100+ dresses, i FINALLY found my dress at a cute bridal boutique!
also – your voice totally sounds like anna kendrick!
“In bridal, getting your money back is not really a thing” 😂 This is such a helpful video. Thank You.
I picked my dress from a bridal magazine. I found a local stockist, tried it on and purchased it.
I never tried on any other dress and I was extremely happy with it.
I just bought my wedding dress. I put the last one on and I loved it. I wasnt hoping to love that one. It was the most expensive one!!! But i needed that dress. Its the only one I could wear. I got so lucky to have a size 0. All i needed was a hem!!! I am so happy that I didn't choose a dress because of the price. (All of the dresses were wothin my budget.)
Stumbled across your page, and was shocked when you mentioned CT…I live in New Haven! Love your channel, neighbor! 🙂
Can you please be my consultant? I'm getting married in 480 days and I have the perfect gown in my mind.
I love your makeup!!!
Hi! When is the best time of the year to get discounted bridal dresses?
The sizing is a real thing. I'm an hour glass shape, pushing pear and I'm like three different sizes. I had some size ten dresses fit like a glove and some size 16 still not go over my hips and swallow me everywhere else. I left with a dress and was so excited(still am), but the sizing thing put me in a weird mood
Good job on vid
I'm not even getting married or in a relationship but I want to educate myself and prepare if one of ny sisters is getting married lol